Sunday, February 12, 2006

To Match or not to Match?

I am trying to decide whether to get back on Match or not......
Several things come to mind in thinking about this.
First the positive:
  1. Dating:24 hour exposure online....you never know when you might meet someone who doesn't work "normal" hours ( a nurse for instance).
  2. Not a bar skank,..errr well didn't meet her in a bar anyway.
  3. Usually smarter than the average I would meet in a bar.
  4. If they re on Match,..they are serious, to a degree, about finding someone.
  5. You know!...Well assume they are single.
  6. You get to shop girls (and they you).
  7. Shy people are more likely to actually talk with someone online.
  8. You can "pre-screen" for likes and dislikes.
  9. I have had success.....and not...just like meeting someone anywhere.
  10. You meet people who wouldn't normally be in your social circle.
  11. You can meet people that are tired of going out and have no reason to run into each other otherwise.
  12. You can use your charm or humor playing relative to their profile (things they said) vs. meeting them "cold" in a bar or wherever.
  13. You already know something about them when you meet.
  14. You can judge a degree of compatibility.
  15. You might get to meet someone who simply soesn't have the time to go out and meet someone.
Then there are the negatives:
  1. You lose the eye and accidental contact..a smile, a wink, a little flirting.
  2. You can be shopped as well as shop.
  3. Women and I assume men, may rule out someone based solely on their picture, but otherwise would be fine together....
  4. The one night stand is gone (then again that might be positive,..but at least it can still happen to you outside of your Matches)
  5. Things you write, imply, or email..can be grossly misinterpreted because you lack inference and tone of voice via email.....doesn't bode well for those of us with a hint of sarcasm in most we say...
  6. There might be a reason a hot girl has to go online instead of showing up anywhere, anytime....to meet a man.
  7. It has come to my attention with girls from Match I have dated, that they absolutely get bombarded by emails and offers.....from dudes...I mean full inboxes.....the inverse is NOT true. Is there really a difference between this and a bar?
  8. Your profile can absolutely do you in........
  9. Meeting multiple women can be expensive,.....three women,..three first dates,....easily $180 if you like them and you are trying to see if you get along. AND this can happen all in one week.
There are many things positive and negative about on-line dating. I can say I have met better a quality of woman than I have met otherwise....but in the same breath it hasn't worked out thus far,..and some of them were flat out crazy...."That Girl" for instance!
Would this have been different if we had met in a different way? Probably not. I can honestly say that I have met more women this way than I have met on my own,..especially at this age and with the amount of time I have available. Comments are appreciated............

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